Don’t “Give and Take”. Try This Instead. Beyond the Panorama November 27, 2020

Don’t “Give and Take”. Try This Instead.


Written by Vineet Sethi

We are all familiar with this phrase: ‘The Joy of Giving’

Giving is celebrated because it’s not easy to do something for someone else, and it takes courage to give away something from your life to others. What brings joy though, is if we have the heart to do something for others without expecting anything in return

Which makes me ponder over this contradictory and perceived-to-be noble concept of:

‘Give And Take’ 

This concept of “give and take” has brought more misery to humankind than anything else- it snatches away the joy from giving and makes the element of expectation inherent in most of our actions. Expectation is the most common root cause of human suffering, in terms of bad relationships, dissatisfaction at the workplace, and so on, and it brings anxiety in our actions, amongst other perils.

Think about the following few and assess if any may be relatable:

  • We give our best in school/college to get good grades and not necessarily to get educated
  • Many give donations and expect divine blessings or good luck in return
  • We pray and expect forgiveness or divine intervention for resolution of our problems
  • We undertake corporate gifting and expect lucrative future business
  • We give our best to children and not just wish but actually expect them to do well from our perspective

To experience pure joy from giving, give freely and abundantly without any expectations and hope of receiving anything in return. If that may be too saintly an idea, I propose a middle path, introducing the idea of:

“Give and Get” 

Give for the joy of giving, bereft of expectations, and may you get what you deserve.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Vineet Sethi
Vineet Sethi

Vineet Sethi is a renowned business mentor and life coach helping organizations and people achieve their fullest potential.

1 Comment
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    November 30, 2020, 5:07 AM

    Giving from a full heart is one of the most joyous things you can do, and the Universe will match that and flood even more into your life.

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